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Anxiety Happens, then Cast it Away

Seth Godin’s post today is about how we all feel anxiety.

Cast your anxieties away

Acknowledge your anxieties, then cast them away

“Perhaps it is due to the fact that you’re trying to control things that you can’t possibly control.

Your anxiety might merely be a sign that you care deeply about your work.

Anxiety is almost never a useful emotion to carry around. Even for magicians.

Now that you’ve been reminded that you care, it pays to let the anxiety go. Good riddance.”

Yes, easier said than done, but worth the effort of learning how.

Here’s what you do when you feel anxiety

  1. Examine what’s going on and find out if the reason is valid.
  2. If it is valid – deal with it
  3. If it’s not valid, you can let it go.

May 30, 2012 at 1:01 pm Leave a comment

I’m Not Good Enough

I’m listening to Seth Godin’s Linchpin this week and this point really struck a nerve with me.

We are trained to not make mistakes. School is all about getting high grades by not making mistakes, but you can’t make art by not making mistakes.  No wonder we feel like we are wrong all the time. I do.

I always feel like I’m not doing enough, like I’m making mistakes.

Peter Shankman wrote this week about feeling like he was missing out. This is a guy who is wildly successful, and he still feels this way.

Sagar Jha, At TEDxHalifax, spoke and recited his poetry about the regret we feel about not jumping on every opportunity we find. He says, not only is it impossible to physically do them all, but that some are meant to be little seeds that we nurture in our minds.  We grow these seeds, or morph them into other ideas, or integrate them into other opportunities or pass them along. We should lose the regret and guilt.

In this week’s video, Marie Forleo answers the question about how to handle feeling inadequate.

The answers:

  • Everyone, I mean everyone, feels this way. Revel in the shared experience.
  • Understand it comes from you and you are the boss of you, so change that tune.
  • How you react to that feeling is also up to you – acknowledge it and choose to ignore it.
  • You can do and dare or you can do nothing. What’s the worst and best that can happen in each case?
  • Let go of worrying about not doing enough.
  • Focus on doing what you are doing and doing it as well as you can.
  • You will stumble and make mistakes. Everyone does. Live with it.
  • If you aren’t making mistakes, you aren’t trying hard enough.
  • Feel the fear and do it anyway.
  • Watch this.

March 14, 2012 at 11:28 am Leave a comment

September Reading

The Elegance of the Hedgehog a novel by Muriel Barbery; translated from French by Alison Anderson.  Deep, so slow reading.  A look at how our thoughts (or avoidance of them) are our reality.


The Invisible Gorilla: and other ways our intuitions deceive us by Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons.  Interesting exploration of how our pop culture has some crazy ideas about how the brain works.  I’m not sure I agree with all their conclusions, but I acknowledge that I may be subject to those pop culture ideas we have entrenched.


How to Eat a Small Country: a family’s pursuit of happiness, one meal at a time by Amy Finley.  Amy won the Next Food Network star contest complete with her own cooking show – and almost lost her family in the process.  This book is a telling of the story of the following year they all spent in France.  A good book.


Enchantment: the art of changing hearts, minds and actions by Guy Kawasaki.  Enchant the people in your life and your life will get better.  Along the lines of “help enough people get what they want in life and you will be rich”.


We Are All Weird by Seth Godin.  This is the latest in the Domino project.  Seth says that we are all at the fringe in some ways and that now we can connect with others like us and share our fringeness.  Focus on your uniqueness and help others who are the same as you.  The middle of the bell curve has flattened out and the ends are more robust.  This is long-tailness.


 A Most Wanted Man: a novel by John Le Carre.

October 3, 2011 at 9:47 am Leave a comment

Just ask Seth and Mitch

I started a post this morning with a recap of progress this week.  There’s quite a bit to say and as I was writing I realized how big each point could get.  An hour or so in and it was messy, rambling and unfocused – still with a few gems but they were well disguised.  So I checked my feeds and found out that, once again Seth Godin and Mitch Joel were reading my mind and had the answers.

Today’s post is a link to their posts.  If you have a blog, if you write (or want to), if you wonder what it would be like to do those things; check out their posts.

What I’m getting from them is to write every day, post shorter, more focused thoughts and not devolve into whining (that last is my own admonition – chronicling a story can easily go there and I don’t want to).

September 23, 2011 at 10:09 am Leave a comment

Conversations in the Social Media Age

Conversation at Caffe Nero

Originally uploaded by ktylerconk

I am so excited to be alive at this time of the world. It is a time of immense change and opportunity. One of the main drivers of that is social media.

Social media like Facebook, Twitter, Link’d in, texting and Skype make it easy to have conversations.

We have the tools to carry on conversations with people scattered all over the world. I stop into Facebook and see what my friends are up to. I can make a short comment or even hit the like button, just to let them know I read and enjoyed what’s happening with them. I see my brother in Bulgaria is on Skype and I tap out a quick conversation to catch up. My son texts just to say he saw something that reminded him of the time we….

These are informal, easy on-going ways to stay connected.

Social media is here for deeper conversations, too. I belong to an online, international book club. We get together every Friday afternoon on Skype. We choose one book and talk about a chapter a week for weeks. We get into deep meaningful conversations and we all bring our own perspectives. That’s where the magic is.

The most interesting part is that we have had several of the authors join us. Dan Pink and Mitch Joel so far and we’re talking to Chris Guillebeau and Steven Pressfield to schedule a time. There’s no way this could have happened before.

Social media also offers us contact with the leading thinkers of our time. Have a look at TED, Youtube, Vimeo, Livestream and Youstream. You can see James Cameron talk about why he chooses the movies he produces; Seth Godin talking about how you can be a Linchpin; or Elizabeth Gilbert talk about what it’s like to know that your best book is behind you.

I belong to a group called Triiibes. We are 16,000 strong from all over the world and we are connected around the theme of pushing ourselves and those around us to reach our considerable potentials. It’s the social media tools, specifically Ning, that make this possible. This is a group of amazing people from around the world who I would never have met otherwise.

Social media is changing the way we converse and more importantly, who we are conversing with. It’s making the world more accessible. It allows people to stay connected.

Who do you connect with now that you couldn’t have before?

January 31, 2011 at 11:26 am Leave a comment

Building Tribes

The tribes of Chakeshan in traditional attires

attending the 25th Republic Day Silver Jubilee

of the NSCN (IM) GPRN at Hebron Nangaland on march 22.

Originally uploaded by rajkumar1220

This is a longer post to, hopefully, make up for not posting more this week. I’ll keep trying to post 5 days a week.

What is a tribe?
A tribe is a group of people who like the same things you do. They can be an existing, fully-formed group or you can attract a group of people around something you start.

  • By being here, you are part of the Business Owners Success Club, a BOSCer – a small, self-selecting group.
  • All my bookkeeping clients are part of the Crystal Clear tribe.
  • I belong to the Triiibe that Seth Godin started 2 ½ years ago when he published the book Tribes. I am also part of an international, online bookclub which is a subtribe of Triiibes.

All of these tribes have changed my life, the people in them have shared their ideas, they have encouraged me to grow and take on challenges I would never have dreamt of.

Why bother?
Your tribe are into the same things you are. They speak your language. They all have different viewpoints and lenses. They are the same but different from you. That creates an opportunity for you.

  • You can find out what they want and provide it.
  • You can find out what they like or use and get it, too.
  • You get encouragement and models to do what you and they want to do.

How do you enable a tribe?

  1. There needs to be a theme or reason around which people can gather
  2. There needs to be an outside and an inside
  3. There needs to be a way for people to talk to each other
  4. There needs to be value

A crash course in tribes and their care and feeding:

Seth’s TED talk about Tribes

Tribe Management

Tribe Leadership

The New Marketing

There is no Tribe of Normal

Secret of Great Blogs

I love this video.

January 15, 2011 at 12:54 pm Leave a comment


No Mind 2010-100

Originally uploaded by Ängsbacka

Seth Godin said Bonhomie is underrated. I’ll take it one step further and say Bonhomie is essential.

It’s what’s missing when Small Business Owners keep plugging away on their own. Many people go to a coffee shop to work, just to be around others. Other people isn’t what’s missing. It’s the camaraderie, the laughs, the relaxed sharing that happens when people who truly like each other get together.

How can you get it when you are a solopreneur with nary a water cooler surrounded by coworkers in sight? Join. Join bookclubs, join online clubs, join organizations, get out and network, volunteer, take classes, go to workshops and conferences. In other words, step away from the keyboard or drawing board and spend time having fun with other people.

This isn’t just underrated, it’s essential.
Remember: All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.

January 10, 2011 at 11:09 am Leave a comment

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The Three Success Factors

I have worked closely with 100’s of business owners and I have seen too many struggle. I have seen what works and what doesn't.

It takes 3 things to succeed:
1. Hard work - and I know you do that already.
2. Knowledge - domain knowledge: you've got that and continue to learn; and business knowledge: this is where everyone focuses and it's easy to find
3. Mindset - This is the killer app. This is what makes or breaks small business owners.

We work on Mindset here at the Business Owners Success Club: how you think about yourself and your business.

When you focus on a business that gives you what you need to live a Good Life and gives others what they need to solve a problem, everything else falls into place and you have a successful business.

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