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Anxiety Happens, then Cast it Away

Seth Godin’s post today is about how we all feel anxiety.

Cast your anxieties away

Acknowledge your anxieties, then cast them away

“Perhaps it is due to the fact that you’re trying to control things that you can’t possibly control.

Your anxiety might merely be a sign that you care deeply about your work.

Anxiety is almost never a useful emotion to carry around. Even for magicians.

Now that you’ve been reminded that you care, it pays to let the anxiety go. Good riddance.”

Yes, easier said than done, but worth the effort of learning how.

Here’s what you do when you feel anxiety

  1. Examine what’s going on and find out if the reason is valid.
  2. If it is valid – deal with it
  3. If it’s not valid, you can let it go.

May 30, 2012 at 1:01 pm Leave a comment


Finishing is on my Mind

I am a great starter. I thrive on having several projects on the go at once. I often find synergies and efficiencies that way.

I’m not so great at finishing. I have many jobs and projects waiting for the last check, the last edit, or the last bit of research to get them off my desk and onto someone else’s desk. These jobs tend to pile up as I give in to the resistance to finishing them.

There are lots of reasons to resist finishing. Once it’s done, I have to put it out there to be judged or, worse, ignored. What if I miss something? Once it’s done, I won’t get to work on it any more and I enjoy all my projects.

There are better reasons to finish the work. I can get paid for it. I will learn from the feedback. I can move on to the next project.

I spent some time this weekend thinking about finishing and my resistance to it. Thinking it through and practising a few techniques on the idea. I’m ready this week to finish off a few lingering projects.

It feels great to clear them away.

How about you? How many projects do you like to do at once? How are you at finishing? Do you do a clean sweep once in a while?

December 7, 2011 at 10:15 am Leave a comment

Good Days and Bad Days

I’m working on another blog post, but it’s not going anywhere so I’ll let it simmer for a while longer.

I want to talk about good days and bad days.  My 100 day challenge is to move my businesses ahead every day.  It’s easy to let days go by just doing it doing it and not getting anything done.  Then there are the days  – I call them getting caught up in the vortex – where things swirl around and I can’t grab an end to get to work on it.

Monday was like that for me.  I started by working on that other blog post for a while and it kept swirling out of my grasp.  First thing at my office I got a message that threw me for a loop.  As I was devising a strategy to deal with it, I got a strange phone call from a stranger with strange news about a mutual friend.  Even before the dust of that one had settled, I got a call from one of my staff telling me she had taken another job closer to home.

By that time, my mind was going at hurricane force.  I couldn’t even stay in my chair.  I went home a little early and nested on the couch until time to make supper.

Needless to say, I hadn’t made progress on anything.  So I was feeling guilty, too.

Part of the reason I was knocked off my centre (as my friend Jeffrey has explained many times) is that I didn’t have the resiliency to absorb what happened.  I have let some issues slide rather than deal with them because they are tough ones.  Every time I add another lingering issue to that pile it takes away from my resiliency.

Wobbling WeebleI feel like one of those Weebles that wobble.  It’s like I’m weighing down my base – I’m not centred, I’m filling up my capacity and I can’t move with grace and assurance.  When a couple of more things happen, that’s it, I’m headed home to nest on the couch.

I was determined on Tuesday to get back on track and I did.  I’ve cleared up some of the lingering issues, there are still a few, but I’ve made progress on them.  I made sure I moved all my projects ahead, even just a little.

Courage, I need to tap my courage, to take on those things that need dealing with rather than let them sit and weigh me down.  I need to forgive myself when I don’t stay with the program so I’m not dragging that along, too.  I need to make sure I have room so that I have the resilience when I need it.

What about you?  Do you get days like that?

October 5, 2011 at 7:50 am Leave a comment

To Everything There is a Time

To everything there is a season.

We gather information, processes it/think it through, and act on it.


During gather time, I read, listen to interviews, watch videos and movies and talk to everyone I meet.  This is a rich, productive discussion and sharing time.  I share what I find and my initial thoughts.

Processing time usually requires quiet time.  This is when I find myself heading off for walks, going to bed early and staring into space.  During processing time, I stop reading non-fiction, blogs, listening to interviews and I even stop watching new movies – I only want to see movies I’ve seen before.  I don’t want any new inputs.  I want what’s in my head to settle into the right order.  This is a time I treasure my dreams.  They are my subconscious working hard for me.  I don’t get aha’s so much as shifts in my thinking.


This can be a time of change, too.  These shifts can be big.  Change times bring all sorts of strange things.  Sometimes even illness.  Change means an ending of one thing to make room for another.  No matter how much we want the new thing, letting go of the old one can be traumatic.  When I made the change of thinking of myself as an owner/operator of a bookkeeping business to business owner ready to start the next, it was scary.  I have great ideas for new businesses, but letting go of who I was to make room for who I want to be, was traumatic.  By the time I got through it, I was an owner of businesses and I was comfortable with that and impatient with doing bookkeeping, because it got in the way of doing the work of owning businesses.


Then I act.


Right now I’m in the processing stage.  My first clue is that I started reading more fiction.  I have several projects on the go and they are nearing do time.  I have stepped up to be a leader, but I miss having a roadmap.  Roadmaps make the going easier.  In the real world, I’ve never been lost.  I may not always be where I want to be in a strange place, but I always know where I am.  I have been lost as a leader.  Part of my current processing is to get comfortable with that thought and be prepared to forge out anyway.  To be ready to start without knowing the route or even the exact outcome.  I can have objectives and a vision, but if I am a true leader, I need to be ready to let others step up and take the project to places I couldn’t or wouldn’t have thought about.  I’m getting there and I feel the excitement building.

I can’t wait!

March 29, 2011 at 10:33 am 2 comments

Keep Going

I watched Bourne Identity over the weekend.  One of the things that really struck me was that he didn’t stop.  Before we get going here, I recognize this is a movie and therefore may be somewhat artificial, but A) I’ve seen how this works in real life and B) I’ll take lessons from Bourne any day.

In this, the Embassy escape scene.  He keeps moving.  He gathers information, he improvises and he keeps moving.  How many times have we been in a situation where we thought, that’s it, we’re done here.   Yet, even when we think we are done, if we keep going, we find we can keep going.

He is chased to the top of the building and he escapes out an old fire escape door.  When he jumps up onto the railing to get to the roof, the railing pulls away from the wall he jumps back down.  He doesn’t stop, he begins to climb down the few remain rungs of the old escape ladder.  As the guards burst through the door he gains a foothold on the building and grabs on.  He climbs down using the brick layers.  At one point he makes it to a ledge and without so much as a breath he swings himself out over and continues to climb down.  Once on the ground, he picks up his dropped bag, brushes the snow off himself and walks quickly away.

First off, I’m not up for climbing up or down the outside of buildings, but I couldn’t help but think if I were, I’m not sure I wouldn’t have stopped a few times to rest, take stock, and think about what I were doing.

That’s the point I’m making.  We stop too much.  We would get much farther if we just kept going.

When have you experienced this? – keeping going, not climbing the outside of buildings – or maybe climbing the outside of buildings.  When should you have?

March 15, 2011 at 10:30 am 2 comments

Writing Good

I am not a good writer.  I can usually convey what I am trying to, but I get caught in grammar circles and my prose is clumsy.

Writing is an essential skill these days so I am trying to learn to do it better.

I won’t even try to tell you how or what to do, other than it’s important.  Instead, here are a few awesome writing blogs:

Write to Done by Leo Babuta and his list of Top 10 blogs for Writers.

Steven Pressfield

and Elizabeth Gilbert because I am delighted by her writing.

Becky Blanton awesome writer and a friend.

January 24, 2011 at 11:50 am 8 comments

The World Needs You to Be a Bigger and Better Person

I love this article by Steven Pressfield, author of the War of Art.  He writes that panic is a natural state and that it precedes the shipping of your best art.  He says,

New Year’s is a big time for panic. Self-expectations of what’s ahead, self-recriminations for what’s behind. If you feel a twinge of panic, take a breath and step back. Re-examine the past six months, the past twelve. Are you growing? Is the arc or your evolution upward? I’ll bet the ranch it is, even if it’s hard for you to see because you’re too close to it. Ask a friend. Ask three friends.

Steven is a writer writing for other writers so when he talks of art he means in the traditional sense.  Your art is whatever you do with your heart.  My art is bookkeeping and coaching business owners about the flow of money in their business and this Business Owners Success Club.

You should never feel comfortable. There is something wrong if you are. You should always feel under threat, on the edge of your seat and pushing yourself. Win one and you want to win more. It`s never-ending. – Damon Hill, F1 Champion

Formula 1 auto racing is the pinnacle of racing.  The cars are wonders of engineering and the drivers are elite.  There’s nothing finer than watching one of these machines twitching at the edge of control as the driver makes a move past another.  What would it feel like to be that close to the edge?  Kinda puts your fears about posting that post in perspective, doesn’t it?

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?  You are a child of God.  Your playing small does not serve the world.  There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are all meant to shine, as children do.  We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.  It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.  And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. – Marianne Williamson

To me, this is the highest and best value that a mastermind group brings – a group of fans cheering and egging you on to be the best you can be.   A great mastermind group helps you feel invincible,  offers you practical advice and inspires you to be the best you can be. (a tip of the hat to Jeffrey Hosick, Gary Morton, Trevor Stokvis, Francois Weststrake, Regine Albrecht, Bodo Albrecht, Joshua Harbert, Connie Herman and Rex Williams, masterminds all)

Join or create a mastermind group.  Find a mentor.  Follow (I didn’t say stalk) a successful person to learn and take inspiration.

We have an obligation to be the best we can be.  Yes, that will feel uncomfortable, but do it anyway.

January 7, 2011 at 12:08 pm 1 comment

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The Three Success Factors

I have worked closely with 100’s of business owners and I have seen too many struggle. I have seen what works and what doesn't.

It takes 3 things to succeed:
1. Hard work - and I know you do that already.
2. Knowledge - domain knowledge: you've got that and continue to learn; and business knowledge: this is where everyone focuses and it's easy to find
3. Mindset - This is the killer app. This is what makes or breaks small business owners.

We work on Mindset here at the Business Owners Success Club: how you think about yourself and your business.

When you focus on a business that gives you what you need to live a Good Life and gives others what they need to solve a problem, everything else falls into place and you have a successful business.

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